The man showed sexual interest to his dear bottom. My father hate me. What should I do? How to make a girl with a mature daughter
If a daughter is born, mothers are widely supported by the warmth of the baby with her. Ale, the girl is taller, her character is being formed, her voices, the manner of behavior and often trapleyaetsya so that she is out of sight of her relatives. Even if you don’t immediately recognize contact, internal stoks can fill up the edge of a compelling sight. Without trust to the mother's joy, the little girl tries to earn pardons and increase her share.
How to make a girl happy with a grown-up daughter? See her position and become her friend. If fortune and anger arise between you, the girl sees that maternal lover, you can take it in a different way. Vіdmovtesya vіd zhorstnyh zahodіv ta vise, i vіmаєte result.
How to make a girl with a mature daughter
We must first understand that the child's behavior is the result of your vihovennia. It is not enough just to love yoga, it is necessary from childhood to attach honor to the elders, to instill discipline and practice. With this, it is impossible to forget about the needs of the child, to please them, to help, to support, to bring the dream into life.
Sim'ya can be a command, de skin has its own clothes, it's a strong shoulder, you can hide on a yak. For such mutual relations, there is no terrible or foldable transitional period, no problem of life.
Even if the harmonies and the little ones did not form children, it will not be easy to make them from a grown-up daughter. All the same, it is easier to understand a little man, than a great one. Ale th give up, do not varto. How can you make a little girl with a daughter pidlіtkom:
- Ask your daughter what you have done, or do not do it the way she would like to make her mother. Movchki listen to all the claims and digest the information. The children themselves give hints to the grown-ups, but the power of his egoism does not let them feel that they are taken.
- Ask for a reprimand, as if someone else is your fault.
- Change the color of the blue to better. For the cob, stop suing your daughter, that brawler barks at her. All the same, the methods do not work.
- Start getting the girl in the cicava for you, that activity for her. For example, sign up for a course on preparing sushi, cakes, or learning photography. Like a daughter, she gives all the ideas, develops herself, and then shares the results. After one hour, try a new test.
- Tsіkavtesya її lives, zahoplenymi, plans. Try not to let anyone see the meta to control the situation. Show interest in that fate, ask what your help is needed.
It is necessary with all the forces of pragmatics to build trust. If it won't, the girls will step by step enjoy themselves. Look at the new river - partnership. Be on the same wind, and bottoms, and mothers bring a lot of satisfaction.
What do you respect for the harmonic girls from the grown-up donka
Usі batki tієyu chi іnshoy іroy zlovzhivayut their dominion over children. Rozuminnya, that a child does not belong to a mother, that there is specialness, with its bazhanny and perekonanny, most often come through a sickly dosvіd. Deyakі prodzhuyut cherish the image of the daughters of all life, for those who inflict harm on you from the father's thought, choose the wrong profession, man. And such a mood brings more than one misfortune.
The main causes of filthy stosunkiv mami and donka:
Be like a mother, it’s easy to see that a child has grown up and is resurrected. How to understand that the daughter is already ready for an independent life, that she does not overestimate her strength? How to save її vіd pardons? Tse life-giving nourishment of the flooring praises the heart more lovingly, which the woman begins to break the chickens: strictly control the girl, do not allow to walk, see the “wrong” friends, cook with the boys and so on.
Yak mami psuut donok
You can’t zip a donka with just one way - with a fluttering wet, good butt. Children forever repeat after grown-ups, absorb like sponges, and bad, and good. Did the girl eat alcohol? Supply your own food, but why don’t you have it with your family, do you want to have fun with a company of relatives, friends? Chi do not tidy up in the room? And why do you compose your own speeches?
All of us are not ideal, and it is not possible to twist ideal children, unfortunately. Leather with a singing world of zipping. And yet, in the middle, there is humanness, love to this and love to this, all of them take on meaning.
Crazy kohannya
It is important for a girl to respect her mother's acknowledgment and acceptance. It’s not right to say that you’re wrong, put on a mask of baiduzhnosti, don’t stop bestowing your kohannya. Love the difference donka.
Yakshcho you turn on the skin of the filthy vchinok, karatimete baiduzhistyu, tse led to the development of complexes. Obviously, it’s necessary to vihouvate and slander the filthy behavior, but as a specialty, the daughter is guilty of depriving you of her most beloved, best.
Povnotsіnne splkuvannya
Move with donka on different topics. The life of a teenager is a cicave, as if you saw something new. Your daughter can tell you about new technologies, fashion trends, youth technologies. Zavdyaki їy you can krokuvat in step with the hour and make yourself look richer younger.
Try to talk from a girl not from the position of a father, but from the position of a friend. Remember that the speculation cannot be guessed.
Zagalni traditions
Sim'ya - tse not just spіvzhittya that savage pobut. She is guilty of exerting force, and for whom it is important to know and shake one's roots. Traditions celebrate family uzi, give advice on meals, who are we, who unite us, which is our contribution to the prosperity of that world. Daughters need to tell who її fathers, how the stench lived. Sound family traditions are passed down from generation to generation.
You can vigaduvat and new sounds. For example, once on the river, it’s more expensive or it’s better to go away all the time, stick to dumplings with surprises for the first week (pechivo with indulgences) and so on.
Showing individuality
Sometimes it’s hard to guess the bottoms of the rock for yourself. Who, if not a teenager, knows that the whole world was yogo nig. You want to recognize yourself for the minuscule, to achieve recognition of that success. Help with your daughter. Encourage її initiation, navіt like at first glance, the stench seems to be unpromising and hazy.
You cannot know in advance what you will bring. For example, today it is fashionable to record various videos and publish them on the Internet. It’s foolishness to learn something new, but people wonder about it, the system pays pennies. Who knows, you can bring a good income, or you will give a gift, glory that little girl to the profession of a TV presenter, a journalist.
“May a ration of the one who is the first to break the rock to reconciliation, you know that you are not right,” the psychologist M. Sergeeva respects. - What is the meanness of the super-girls that they stand for their positions from their own dear? Allow me to feel the order that you are comfortable and calm, and out of sight. By the way of standing against that struggle, no one has yet gone into the reach of enlightenment and doing good. Fight everything with love
Podlitkov psychologists are all the same upevneni in that it is necessary to show respect for children, and not less than vimagati yoga for oneself. Prohannya and make it not guilty sound in a categorical form. It is necessary for everyone to have a compromise.
Bagato batkiv with a flicker check the transitional period, and yoga lives in the same fear. In fact, puberty is less of a problem, as it is already known to sims. That is why it is important to correct nutrition. Not like you can make a hundred years old with a daughter, but how I can make a hundred years old daughter in principle. Reply to the foundation - trust that mutual support. Stop cheating on a mature person: your daughter already took in all the good things that you were given. Let me show myself and just love.
Marina, m. Moscow
My family is in a terrible situation. I don't know how to briefly describe it. We're four. Individuals 40, men 33. Two children. Daughter 7 years, son 11 months. If they got to know the person, the donka was already bula. Їy pіvroku it was. Vіn її vyhovat. It can be seen that kokhayut one of one. My daughter is already worried, as if we were welders. Come to me, it seems, mother, I don’t want to bark through me. In short, I wouldn’t say anything .... Zagal, I found out about it (I didn’t know about it myself) three years ago. The daughter was crying, talking about pussy, the man shook his head in shock, saying that I was not a pedophile. They talked for a long time, everyone cried, I believed, vіn promised to bring that everything was not so ... three fates passed. In the spring, I caught them in the kitchen, a man had a rank erection in his shorts, his daughter hung on her neck. Just knowing that the daughter herself from 4 years of age has shown a new unhealthy interest, lie in cowardly, climb under the carpet, copy less, lie on the shoulder, hug. I admit it in principle, she’s been swaying for a long time, like we’re having sex ... a person seems to be afraid of roaring, thinking she’s gone, moving 4 rocky dribna shche. Tse bulo three years ago. And if in the spring I caught (the word is verbatim) їх in the kitchen, I would talk to my daughter again. Vaughn crying, crying, it seems that he put his hand at my panties and asked to try yoga for there, while I was in the shower. It seems that you don’t separate, I don’t want without tat. I cry. I'm in school. I go to the person. Vin didn't seem to be like that. Then I don’t seem to remember my words, maybe, I’m drunk, but I’m not a pedophile, I don’t have any sexual interest in her. Then I talked to the donka, she knew that it used to be and she herself climbed to the tata. As if we lived through this story ... the day before yesterday, a man arrived from duty. 10 days did not fight. So glad everyone was bored. Beautiful supper, gifts, sex. On the eve of the coming day, I woke up the donka to school, she herself went to bed anew in our bedroom before that son. Through hvilin 10 people moved and pishov at the hall, the donka didn’t go to school yet. And I'm lying and as if I'm not on my own. Vihoju to the hall. The man is lying on his stomach on the sofa in the telephone, the daughter is pulling a backpack in the corridor, but I feel like a ridge. I sing with them in the evening. Daughter, it seems that tato with nіy chipov yourself ( masturbate). The man, it seems, is not timid for her, but if he is timid, he is not bachiv. Daughter of tears. Don't get separated, don't bark, I'd rather mumble. I'm crying, I'm calm and I want to go to the windows. Cholovіk at shotsi, mumchit... vrantsі this year, having gone back to the watch for the day, it seems I will die without you, I will tell you that there is nothing like that and it didn’t happen. I don't know what to work, who to blame. I don’t want a son (11 months) to grow up without a father, to love the stench one by one, the child is already doubled, bazhan, but there is only one daughter in me, a wise woman, a beauty ... and yet I am. I already love my family. Usikh. Including a cat and a hamster. I love the man crazy. Vin, however, is kinder. Family, handy, reasonable, funny. Ale and cunning. I can’t destroy this family with my hands, that pet will be separated. I can't. Physically. I will die. Children are left alone. I can’t ruin the life of the donka. If you want to ride, it’s good not to throw tata. I stared at the zalyakanoy not looking out. Start living to the threshold of zustrichata tata z roboti, visne on shiї. Everything is in a right way to drive me out of my mind.
I need a psychologist, a psychiatrist, a friend ... htos, you can discuss it with him. Ale ni z kim. You can’t talk about this topic with friends, there’s not a lot of pennies for a psychologist yet. And I am unbearably sicker. Bigti tezh no where to go. I am alone in my mountain. I can discuss yoga less with a person. Don't talk about that. Help ... I'm afraid, if you see a person with children, I'll call my daughter to everyone, even if she's not guilty, the girls are zipsuyutsya with her. Ale zalishat so mustache is not possible! What should I do? How to virvati everything from the heart? How to erase gigabytes of memory from your head? I am between two fires. I'll burn the axis. Help.
Hello Julia.
In older adults, damage can be blamed on mating with children. Don't wait for the ceremonial. Ale to rob a person with a pedophile.
It is important, as a person has grown up, then we should behave with zim zbudzhennyam. It is important, what kind of vibіr vin to rob. І tsey choice to lie down in the form of grown-up people by 100%. You can only tell yourself that you will wake up, you won’t work with the child of your sexual life, at її presence, ask її, show me thinly.
Symbolically, the message to the daughter should be treated like this: "You are like me, I will sing with you, but I am your mother's man and I will only be with her. We will have nothing with you." And, obviously, you yourself can’t make a child want, calm down, etc.
Children can behave provocatively, stench only begin to recognize my own body, my own child's susceptibility. But children do not bear responsibility for their children, the stench still does not understand what is happening with them.
the daughter herself from 4 years of age shows up to a new unhealthy interest, lie in cowardly, climb under the carpet, copying me, lie down to the new one on the shoulder, embrace.
The child is simply copying the behavior of the fathers. Become a man for mothers, and for a tat retinue, I want a lot of children, I still don’t know what it means. If we are talking about a child, the words "unhealthy interest" do not make sense.
It’s not healthy for those who have grown up a person who doesn’t explain to a child, that it’s impossible to work like that, that you can sleep and sleep under a carpet, and it’s permissible to chipat in only your mother’s shorts.
Daughter of tears. Don't get separated, don't bark, I'd rather mumble.
Tilki have grown up to blame, take responsibility for everything that comes up. For whom it is important not to bark and not to discuss food for daughters, not to rule on face-to-face rates and not to tell anyone wrong. If you didn’t take a decision about your long life with a man, it’s your responsibility to explain to your daughter that only your grown-ups can do it. And that she did everything right, what she told you. Talk to your daughter and explain what you are saying, how to ask for some yoga, showing you masturbation with it, etc. - that's not right and it's shoddy for him and for her.
With respect, psychologist, gestalt therapist,
Makarova Lola.
A most serious pardon, how to swear to rich mothers and grandmothers, whirling a donka, obviously, on a girl - they program її on the shoes of a language set of newbies and virtues, like a maє mother. You are guilty of being sweet, You are guilty of being accommodating, You are guilty of being kind, You are guilty of learning how to prepare, You are guilty. There is nothing filthy to prepare at the very moment, but the girl’s thoughts are not exactly formed: you are worthy, only you will be able to confirm the set of criteria. Here it’s more efficient and without trauma for the psyche, we’ll use the master’s butt: let’s make a delicious soup at once. Let's get home together. Let's choose your combo together. Bachachi, like a mother, I want to rob and take it off, I want to learn it, donka. And now, if my mother hates me on the right, then I would repeat for some time, what needs to be read, the girl will have a chance to process. And really, everything that is necessary, the girl, all the same, learn to learn early. If you yourself become necessary.
Another pardon, as is often heard from the daughters of the wives - tse important, judging the appointment to the person and sex, as it is broadcast by the mother. "We must have one need", "Surprise, sail and kill", "Don't bring a head to the hem", "You are guilty of being inaccessible". As a result, the girl's growth is obvious, that people are aggressors and bullies, that sex is worth brudne and trash, which is unique. With all the help of the body, for a long time, it’s better to send signals, to stop viruvat hormones, and to wipe the inside between the fence, to look like a mother, and to the bajans, to go in the middle, it’s even more traumatic.
The third pardon, as a marvelous rite of contrast with the other - closer to 20 years old, the girls are reminded that the formula for good luck is formed from "to come abroad and the people." Moreover, ideally up to 25 years, otherwise it will be fine. Think about it: in childhood, they said why it’s one’s fault to learn (list), to get married and become a mother, then we’ll broadcast a thought about those that men are goats, and sex is a brud, and the axis is new: come to live and give birth. . It's paradoxical, but often the very same super-cheerful instruct mothers to voice their daughters. The result is a fear of stunners like that. And seriously increase the risk, spend it on yourself, spend a link with your bazhanny that you are aware of what the girl really wants.
The fourth pardon is tse hyperopia. At the same time, it’s great famously, mothers more and more often tie their daughters to themselves, and they will feel such a large number of fences that it’s scary. Don’t go for a walk, don’t be friends with tsimi, call me skin pivgodini, children change you, why zaznila 3 hvilini. Girls should not be given their freedom, they should not be given the right to make a decision, for those who can be pardoned. Ale is fine! At 14-16 years, a normal child needs to go through the process of separation, if he wants to do everything himself, and (for a little food and health) you need to give such a possibility. To that, as a girl of stature under her mother’s pick, she won’t establish herself in the Duma, she won’t be a source of a different kind, not given up to an autonomous foundation, and for her all other people will forever win.
P'yata pardon - forming a negative image of the father. It does not matter whether the present father is in the family or the mother to raise a child without his participation, it is unacceptable to turn the father into a demon. You can’t say to a child that they are short-lived - that’s filthy recession along the Batkiv line. You can’t defame the old man, I want to be yakim vin buv. As if guilty and rightly called “goat”, then the mother should recognize her part of the confession for those that she took this person herself into the father of her child. There was a pardon, for that the fathers parted, but it is not possible to revere the girl for the one who took the fate of the conception. Vaughn is definitely not at fault here.
Shosta pardon - deadly punishment. Obviously, it is impossible to beat one's own children, nicoli, ale varto to know that the girls are more traumatized. Psychologically, the girl shifts more from normal self-esteem to the position of belittled and inferior. And if it’s physical warning to walk like a father, you can sing it to the point that the partner’s girl is the aggressor.
Soma pardon - underpraise. Donka is guilty of growth, constantly feeling that she is the most beautiful, the most beloved, the best, the best. Tse form a healthy, normal self-esteem. Tse help the girls to be virulent because of the feeling of being satisfied with yourself, accepting yourself, loving yourself. Tse zaporuka її happy future.
Eight pardon - z'yasuvannya stosunkіv at daughters. If the fathers are not guilty of power welding for children, it is simply unacceptable. It is especially important to talk about the special qualities of the mother and father, mutual calls. The child is not guilty of this bachiti. And it’s already so trapilos, insulting the fathers of guilt vibachitsya and explain that they didn’t get into trouble with their feelings, they made up and reconciled already, and it’s a smut - the child is not up to anything here.
The ninth pardon is a girl's miscarriage of puberty. There are two extremes here: allow everything, but do not make contact, and block everything, so that “do not progavite”. It seems like insulting gershi. The only way to overcome this important period for all without sacrifice is firmness and kindness. Hardness - at the level of what is permitted, goodness - at the intersection. It is especially important for girls in their own city, that they spoke richly, drank, ate idiotic meals, shared their own wisdom. I need to react calmly, by no means victorious against children. If you don’t grow up at once, there will be no closeness, and the daughter, who was growing up, will say: “I didn’t trust my mother at all.”
Nareshti, the rest of the pardon is an incorrectly established life. Girls at any time cannot say what their lives can include deacis points. Zamіzh, people, lose weight, do not stroke and so on. The girl needs to be taught to self-realization, to listen to herself, to be able to take care of what she deserves, to get into it, to be pleased with herself, to be independent of other people’s assessments and that huge thought. When you are older, you are happy, beautiful, inspired by yourself, ready for the full partnership of a woman.
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Three times ago I found out about the shocking information. The daughter knew that my man - її dear father - periodically її "paw". A handful of wines robbing tse yak bi mizh іnshim, if waking up її vranci and passing by, running your hands over your breasts and panties. Passers-by walked up and down the butt, nibi crowed. And once, if the stench was at the grandmother's in the countryside, they urged him to marvel at the fall. Vlashtuvav on the street couch, and lying instructed from it under the rugs, laying his hand between him. Tobto. tse buv not just like a tear, z like a vin could not get in, go out, sho buli yogo goals straightened, planned dії!! I still can’t figure out why I’m guilty, what’s wrong with me? Why am I not afraid, what am I confessing? Why didn’t the donka fix the opir cim diyam and did she know me in the same time only after 2 days ?! How many days did I tell the people that I know about this homework, I’ve been drunk for a long time, but if I understand that my daughter told me all the details - I knew, saying that I had done foolishness and really didn’t think of anything like that ... I feel like feasting like a stingy dream, the world was called in one day. It was easy to talk to me with a person, and I wrote a piece of paper, I hung out all my life, all my thoughts, I tried to be more careful, but I firmly stated my position - but at once we couldn’t do more for the minds of the day. Win pishov. The first days often writing SMS, repenting, asking for reconciliation, but my opinions were short and categorical. Some people come to us, bring hotels, spend a little time with children. There are four of us, the youngest - the second fate and wine is crazy to love him, I think that for the new one the greatest pain at once ... Yogo's eldest daughter is naturally unique. After these zustriches, I see a stingy fault and it’s a pity that everything turned out like this. I understand that at the same time I need more of my respect and love to give donations, as in this situation I turned out to be a victim, albeit less than the worst of the shkoda of the person herself. For the past three years I have been living in the garage, there are no minds for living there, orphan, cold ... And if the wines are zazhzhzhav vostann - I succumbed, scho in ailments. I urged youma to live at home for the time being - being inspired, afraid of infecting children. I haven’t written for three days, I’m worried about him, I’m constantly thinking like I’m guilty and what’s wrong with him ... Vіdpovіv, scho already troch better. She asked for help to rent an apartment - saying that it was not necessary. If you feel sorry for your pity, it just paralyzes me, I can’t do anything. And in me there are children, I need to speak with them, practice, live. They also praise those who are with the little girl, as I can help her, if I myself am in a stingy state. Sometimes I remember myself that I am angry at her. It’s still a heavy burden to hang the future Rozmov with the fathers, I still don’t know anything ... I don’t even want to, so that the right reason for our rozrivu has become hot to the commie of the house! In a first way, I don’t want it, so that everyone turned up like a person, but in a different way, so that the little girl became the subject of some sort of discussion. I can’t tell anyone, I can’t be proud of anyone, for days on end I go and talk to myself. At the head of a bunch of different voices - mine, yoga, relatives ... Sometimes I catch myself saying it out loud ... Once I saw a psychologist, just to speak out, to check the alignment, as she helped me to shake the situation from the side. , I learned that at once it is simply necessary for me to think and think about myself, about the donka, and not about the person, but for now it’s not good for me to go out. I still wanted to be recognized by fakhіvtsіv - similarly they got sick, like my cholovіka stench inflamed like a likuvannyu, opratsyuvannya? Sometimes I start doubting the correctness of my decision... Maybe, maybe I could try to try to solve this problem at once? Previously, I thought more than once about those who would separate, but the axis is now, if there is a seriously serious reason for this - I hesitate - I definitely want it ... actions from them or just an objective look from the side.
Olena Mykolaivna Gladkova, a psychologist, is asked to provide food.
Good afternoon, Olgo!
After reading your sheet, the vinyclo richly sliv that richly sensible. I would like to support you with your decision to secure your family in case of incestuous events. And even more I would like to try to help you look at the situation, so that you could evaluate all sides of what happened, and give yourself the opportunity to get ruined and feel guilty about the condemnation of all the participants in what happened.
It’s important to reevaluate the father’s rise to the stage and the development of the donka! The very fathers of the father's girl should learn to recognize their own qualities, as if by the year to allow her to accept her identity, as if to decline in the face of her mother. Bachachi in the eyes of the father of love and recognition, she will learn to recognize the feelings in other people, which will help her even more and more quickly to get into the roll of a kohan woman, a mother of a mother.
Але грань захоплення, яке вона отримує від батька, надто тонка, а психічна стійкість чоловіків у сьогоднішньому вседозволяющем світі занадто слабка часом для того, щоб чітко розмежувати любов батьківську від любові чоловічої, яку дівчата в цьому віці вже починають шукати і відчувати увагу чоловіків на собі . .
First, if you don’t see it, try “calm down” with your daughter, a person, who is insanely important for her in life, could become a messenger for launching “instincts”, attached to be-like a person, like they couldn’t but stream your yoga roll - roll dad.
I don’t want, I won’t, and I don’t want to call you your daughter, but I can understand the reaction of a weak person, for whom it is important to stand before the onslaught of these instincts of sexuality, which are waking up, to the powerful old age. I don’t greet, as if to be a father in the sim of your man, she was weak, but she was all day long.
Those that your daughter did not care about those who told you about those that happened, you can tell about those that she herself could be angry and her behavior and the reaction of a close person to a new one. It’s quite possible, what’s the fault of the moment to say, that in what happened between them, she herself is guilty. And it’s very important for a fool to get in trouble with such feelings of guilt, for the same reason more incest is not revealed.
Let’s just admit that not everything that seemed to be true, but some facts could have been the result of a child’s fantasies about those, how could it be, for such fantasies it’s all the same boo, that you didn’t rush for your daughter mental development! Incest in today's world can be considered to enter the bathroom and the sanitary room, at that moment, if the child takes a shower or a bath, you do your thing!
The behavior of a child can be true, but it’s not yet a mature specialty and you can’t convince your children. Ale has grown up, a person is obliged to cope with his pulls, more directing them to children!
I, as a psychologist, as you have seen, I recommend that you add respect to your daughter, don’t forget the trauma, surround the possible sexual discord in the future, you can forgive me a little bit for the rise of the father and hopefully send away the child’s life with jokes of the ability to make amends.
I would like to reassure you that such a behavior is celebrated, but I will be dishonest, so I will say that such a behavior will require increased control, but it seems that your person cannot be safe.
Taking that decision of your own to protect children from similar injuries, You can allow your person to take the fate of turbot about children from afar, while allowing yourself to be able to follow the lead of your uncontrollable children and to get rid of others. And it’s almost pity for not one pitying one that has already played an evil heat, I respect that it’s almost unacceptable for making such important decisions not only for your life, but for the life of your children.
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